The most important thing I have come to realise is the understanding that I am a powerful being; we all are. This realisation not only gave me a different perspective on life but it also set me free.
We are powerful because we are in control of our decisions, choices, actions, thoughts and even feelings. However, sometimes life gets in the way and we give our power away. Here are 11 ways to help you not to give your power away:
Don’t play the blame game– whatever happens to you, take full responsibility – look at the situation and see why it happened, might you have done something to attract it? What can you learn from it? Surely there is a lesson in it for you. Then concentrate your energy on the solution.
Realise that there are no such things as ‘problems’; there are only ‘challenges’. The only problem you have is to think you have one!
Don’t play the victim – saying things like ‘why me’ doesn’t do you any favours or help you become a stronger version of yourself. Instead, ask yourself: ‘What can I learn from this?’ and ‘What can I do to solve it?’ This puts you back into your power zone.
Things are never as bad as we think they are so don’t exaggerate! Saying things like ‘OMG this is a huge problem!’ puts you in a very different mindset than saying: ‘No worries, there is a solution for everything’. The later puts you on the road of self-pity and victimisation and nothing good can come from this space. In the latter, you are already heading towards the sign that will take you to the solution.
Trust that the Universe doesn’t throw anything at you that you cannot handle.
Don’t get caught up in other people’s dramas – in other words, other people’s stress is theirs, not yours. Listen and help if you can but don’t allow yourself to be affected by it. A good example is when you are driving, it’s easy to get annoyed with someone’s driving behaviour, let it go its nothing to do with you.
Avoid thinking or using words that have a negative effect deep in your cellular level (whether you realise it or not, they really do). These are words like ‘hate’ – use dislike instead; calling yourself or someone an ‘idiot or stupid’ – say nothing or find a kinder way to describe the situation (this creates good feelings in you). Also, making judgemental comments creates feelings of hate within your being.
Practice equanimity – you will have a much easier, flowing and peaceful day if, instead of reacting, you act with grace and gentility in any given situation.
Realise that other people’s negativity and criticism towards you have nothing to do with you, but with themselves; let it go gracefully.
Realise that your mind is your means of transport that takes you through life. You are on the driving seat, be sure it only takes you where you want to go.
Believe you are a powerful being and that no one can take that away from you unless you give it away.
As a final note, every time you get upset, annoyed, angry with someone’s behaviour, in reality, what you are doing is giving that person the power to alter your emotional state and spoil your day. Realise that it’s your responsibility alone to let that happen, no one else.